High quality relationships help to bring out the truth from each other. We support each other to be courageous and face our deepest fears, until we can release ourselves from their debilitating hold. In turn we feel free, energized, and renewed. Truth, consistency, devotion, contribution, and growth are the foundations of a happy relationship.
The most important relationship that we can nurture is our relationship with ourselves, and everything else is secondary. Love yourself before you can love someone else.
Our fear of losing too much of a good thing or missing out begs into question, what is our personal value without these counterparts? Is our feeling of being whole dependent only on external factors that are possibly fleeting? Are they worth the risk of losing ourselves along the way? Being in love allows one to endure almost anything. Is it worth to sacrifice one’s ambitions and goals in life in exchange of experiencing any version of love? How can one successfully balance both? Are we simply looking for validation, someone’s company or do we also want growth?
Other questions that can place our personal value in perspective:
- How will your level of contentment be at the time of your death?
- Have you done all of what you wanted to do?
- What were your contributions to those that you left behind, your family, or the world?
- What will you be grateful for?
- What regrets and resentments will you hold on to?
High quality relationships are brave enough to breakdown each other’s bullshit. This kind of relationship help to evolve us to a greater version of ourselves. This relationship is fuel to experience an elevated form of love. These relationships include our relationship with ourselves, our friends, our family, and our life partners.
Imagine you are sitting across yourself. What questions would you ask yourself to extract inner truths, and assess your growth and happiness?